A Guide to Moving On~

It's nearly a whole two months into the new year, and everyone is making a new start.

Seen as though it's coming up to Valentine's day, and we have already established that this blog and it's occupants are 100% anti-Valentines, I'm going to give you a small, but good guide to moving on from any past relationships, whether they be friends or a boyfriend/girlfriend.

Step 1: Let go

Not in an angry way, remove everything in your room/house that reminds you or was given to you by this person. Give any gifts away to charity, or to someone who could use them or needs them. This is so much better and calmer than, say, burning them or throwing them away. Remember, you are trying to be positive, and the bigger person. I'm not saying that doing this is going to be easy, but you have got to try. And believe me, letting go of these things will make the process so much easier.

Step 2: Be the bigger person

You're not doing this in a way that is rubbing it in the other person's face, but in a way that makes you yourself feel happier inside, knowing that you have managed to let go, no matter what the other's feelings are. Maybe write down your thoughts; here it's okay to be angry, maybe even a little teary, because once you have written down these thoughts, end the letter with 'p.s. I forgive you' or a little calm message saying how you are feeling now, and then burn the letter. This symbolises that you are letting go of all those angry, hurtful feelings, and finally letting yourself move on.

Step 3: Start being yourself again

Now that you have moved on from feeling all those emotions, you are finally able to be yourself again. Why not take this time to do something creative, like paint, draw, write? Or maybe you could change your look, like paint your walls a different colour, or start wearing your hair in a different style. You don't need to change, it's just this would be the best time to try something new, now that you're letting yourself go. Maybe you could do something that you used to love doing as a little kid? Like, collecting autumn leaves, or scrap booking. Whatever you chose to do, show those who care about you that you are okay now, and on your way to recovery.

Step 4: Be positive

Everything bad that happened in the past, it doesn't exist anymore. And even if it does in the minds of some, it no longer matters to you, or affects you. You are now free from any of those emotions that hold you back. Start being with your friends more, plan days out. Even if you have to see that other person every day, don't hang your head in shame; stand tall and be happy and confident. What happened between you no longer exists. You don't even have to talk to one another, just, try to be civil.
And most importantly, never forget to smile :)